You’ve just pulled off the event of a lifetime (at least in your family!). It was fabulous. It was huge, ungainly and filled with a massive amount of details. Families had different opinions. Heck, even the two of you had different opinions about what mattered and what didn’t. But you worked it out.
Now that you’re back from the honeymoon, it’s time to sit down and figure out what you gained as a couple from your wedding. OK, you came home married, so you gained a spouse. Families and friends made promises to support you in your marriage, so you gained a lot of support. Both of them are pretty wonderful. You probably got a couple truckloads of gifts (and the pleasure of a lot of thank you notes to write!) You may have realized that if you were doing it all over again, there were some things you might have worried less about and some things you may have paid more attention to. These are great things to figure out, not because you’re going to have another wedding, but because those issues are probably your issues in life as well as in weddings.
You also learned a lot about solving problems. Because that’s what wedding planning is – figuring it out. You set goals and plan the steps that will take you there. It may be you got half way there on some goals, and thought: this is too much work. So you adjusted your goals. You found you had differing opinions, so you compromised and got results you both liked. You worked out what were really the important issues for each of you and then for the two of you together. Is there anything in this that you’re not going to need as you make your marriage? Nope, these are all essential skills. And you’ve just had a huge success!
Life can be so much more fun if you just keep refining your skills. And you know what? Your marriage will be better as well. And wasn’t that why you went through all that wedding planning in the first place? To design a wedding that was going to make you married? Well you did that. Now, you keep figuring out how to solve your problems in the quickest and least contentious ways and make your marriage sweeter and better.
Bottom Line?: Give your relationship the chance it deserves to succeed wildly, against all odds! After all, you deserve it. Your relationship deserves it! There’s a lot more info to help you create the wedding ceremony of your dreams, the wedding vows of your heart and the marriage of a lifetime over on my website: http://annkeelerevans.org And to help you create the wedding vows that will become the blueprint for your incredible, happily and healthily ever-after marriage, I’d like to invite you to sign up to receive 2 free wedding vow templates: http://annkeelerevans.org/weddings/free Go on! I dare you, be happy together!
The Rev. Ann Keeler Evans, The Wedding Priestess – helping you move from “I do” to happily and healthily ever after!